Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-5961377-20160223152724/@comment-4423426-20160227100058

Gameuser10:  I held off replying to this thread for a while to really think about how I word what I'm about to say, but after what happened on chat last night, unfortunately your suspicions were right.

I usually don't go out of my way to talk to you all the time to begin with, but after that night on chat a few weeks ago I felt conflicted. I said I'd help you with certain passing comments you make to people, but part of me asked "How much of this is actually geniune and him voicing his opinion, and how much of is too far? I shouldn't get involved" I found myself thinking that 99% of the time. I mean, none of them said "die" or anything. Most seemed to just be your view in general and  not(and I quote) the side of you that wants blood.

The past few days in chat, you've still been aiming  passive aggressive comments at me when I'm in debate with another user. I can't recall a single incident when I've intervened in your discussions with a user, since the incident on chat a few weeks ago. You even did it last night, and that's when I decided I think I'm done trying to help you. I know you're just going to probably quote some lyrics  and make a subtle jab at me with them, but that's the exact issue-- no matter what I do you still seem to judge my actions. You guilt-trip a lot of us all the time. It's especially guilt-tripping how you called me out on FB with those lyrics(I highly doubt after that chat session that went on, that that wasn't aimed at anyone) and when the person actually does catch on, you say something like "It's just in my mind. Ignore it. Leave me to myself" despite the fact you're actively guilt-tripping others and making them feel bad.

After that chat session last night, I pretty much knew what this reply would already be like. You still continued to get involved in that Water debate on chat, making comments from the sidelines like "some friend" or "entitled, aren't we?" and I'm personally not buying the "It's just what I'm thinking. Let me do it" excuse any more, because that doesn't justify it at all. You expect people to do all these things, but you never follow up in return. You told me I was backbiting before, even when I merely stated what went on in chat. Public things that went on in chat. I literally just explained them. Never thrown heavy insults at you and just explained what happened in the chat and that's apparently backbiting, and THAT is what I mean by guilt-tripping. I'm sure you saw what I said when you had that bot around(that's probably why that FB post happened) It feels like every ounce of mentioning anything bad you did  on main chat behind your back is backbiting to you, and it feels like no matter what I do about that you're not happy, so yeah-- I think I'm done even trying with that. In fact, if mere explanations are really backbiting to you, then you already did that last week to me, because someone  sent me printscreens. I feel people are all entitled to gossip on chat, because that's how it's always been, but you expect me not to, and yet I have printscreens of you doing that exact thing to me. You were literally just stating how you felt, and so have I in the past but if that's so wrong to you, then that can class as it too. I was specifically saving them to prove a point. To prove that I know people do that to me, but unless it's really insultive, I'm not going to get at them for it, and constantly guilt-trip them. It's already telling that I got those printscreens last week, and I'm only just now mentioning them-- I'm only mentioning them to make a point. I was saving them for an exact time such as this.

If you don't want us to talk about you behind your back, then try to stop doing things that you know would evoke that. So far you've done all right, up until last night's chat session. I guess I didn't talk to you much because I felt conflicted about a few weeks ago, because I felt things were going to get bad in chat pretty soon, and you'd hold me to what I said a few weeks ago.

Plus, it seems like you take offense to even the most trivial things, like giving you a fun nickname on chat(I already call Stick Mr Caba and Bunkers Bunkies) and even involving you in any jokes whatsoever. I can understand the religious ones Stick makes, but you seem to think you're being attacked by us when we make some sexual joke about you, or say "Game irl" when pretty much every user gets that including me. You're probably thinking "but does that make it right?" Well I haven't seen a user have a problem with it so far other than you, and I'm starting to feel like you play the victim all the time. You're probably going to think even this reply is insultive, despite the fact I'm doing exactly what you stated on the thread and I'm not cussing you out, or calling you names. It's literally my take on it like you asked. I have a lot of empathy for you, but the more you make passive aggressive comments to me in chat debates, guilt trip me and call me out on things I was cautious about(such as backbiting) the more I feel like trying to help you isn't working out, because I just find myself getting more angry with you, and I especially can not just ignore passing comments you make to me when I'm debating with another user. I don't even see why that is necessary, because you expect me to not to talk about you that way, yet last night(and other nights) you've constantly made jabs at me in public chat in debates that aren't even about you, and you expect me not to do the same in return. It doesn't work like that.